Basically as the title says. I’m on a path of growth, and self-discipline is an integral part of that process. This means that I need to set a plan and create a framework to ensure I’m taking the right steps to meet those goals. This is sort of a road map of who I want to be when I’m done with this journey, or at least my best guess of what the ideal me looks like. Feel free to answer these questions for yourself if you’re on a similar journey, and let me know if anything helped. Or, if you’ve completed a similar journey and have advice, please share it in the comments. This is not my own list of questions so I can’t take credit for designing this. Still, all of the responses here are genuinely my own. Some are a bit more of a stretch than others, but a guy can dream, right?
What does my day look like? I wake up early with the sunrise and practice yoga, meditation or some sort of reflection in the outdoors. Then I have a healthy breakfast and go to work, doing something that fills my life with passion. I walk as often as I can, I lift weights to maintain my fitness and exercise daily. At night I either cook a delicious meal for my family and friends, or we go out to dinner and enjoy healthy but delicious options along with a glass or two of wine. However, I don’t drink all the time, and am in constant control of my life and actions. Everything I do is with purpose, and I’m constantly challenging myself.
Where do I live? I like thinking about this one because I don’t think I’ll be satisfied having just one place to call home – I want to travel the world and live in all the climates. I can see myself on a beach somewhere, or at least a tropical climate as a starter. I want a home or a condo, high end and luxurious to meet all my needs and more. I want to be somewhere close to exciting views without it being too cold. Then again, I wouldn’t mind a colder location as long as it’s close to a mountain range that i can hike, climb and snowboard on. I can also see myself in a high rise apartment somewhere in a busy city, as long as it’s not too busy. Honestly, now that I’m thinking about it, the size and luxury of it doesn’t matter as much as long as I’m in a great location with sights and things to do. I’ve found that my mindset is vastly different when I’m in a location that I truly want to be in.
What do i eat? Healthy, whole foods. Ideally, I’d love to get to a point in life where I’m living off the farmer’s market and completely disconnected from processed foods, fast food and anything unnatural. This look a lot like the Mediterranean diet, or the meal plan that Chat GPT created for me. This includes fruits, nuts, milk, breads, lean meats, fish, eggs, vegetables, yogurt, and really any natural and nutrient dense food. I’m willing to change this diet to better suit my health needs, but I feel this is a good base to maximize good health.
What do I wear? I’m still figuring out men’s fashion, so this is a bit of a shot in the dark. I’m thinking it’s all depending on where I live. Hot climate? Lots of fitness gear and sweat-wicking material, with business casual khakis and polos or short-sleeve button downs at the ready for nights out or business meetings. Colder climate? Thicker active wear, long sleeve thermals and pants to match the climate. I’d have suits at the ready or khakis with a long sleeve shirt to meet more formal situations. Simply put, I plan on looking sleek, slim and elegant, while also hopefully not breaking my budget doing so.
What does my week look like? I’m a hard worker, so I’m fully in on the 9-5 grind if that’s where I end up. However, if it’s entirely up to me, I’d like to limit the hours I work in a day to maybe 4-5, and have the rest of the day dedicated to self-actualization activities, like exploring a new hobby or spending more time focusing on fitness, yoga, or really any extracurricular that I enjoy. Maybe once I’ve built myself up enough, I can start a practice to give back in the form of volunteer work and helping local organizations. I’d like to read and write in my free time, and spend as much time as I reasonably can in nature. I spend very little time watching tv or on my phone unless it’s doing something productive.
What do I do for work? If I knew the answer to this one, I’d have saved $10,000 last year. But jokes aside, I’d really like to see if writing can support my lifestyle. I have a long way to go, but I’m realizing that the more I open my mind, the easier it is to write again. I absolutely love this process of putting thoughts on the page, and if i can make money doing this I would absolutely do it. I think I’d still practice massage therapy on the side too, even if it’s just as a way to stay grounded. Honestly, if i could do anything and get paid reasonably for it, writing is at the top of the list. I love this actually. It perfectly combines my introspective nature and my desire for flexibility so I can work when I want and play when I want.
3 week update: It’s wild to me how quick my interests change and ideas come and go. I still think writing is the way to go for me, or at least as one aspect of my life. What I’m starting to learn though is that I have a lot of things I’m good at, and it’d be a shame if I limited myself to just one. Why not also be a fitness or health coach? Who says I can’t also sell insurance on the side? Is it wrong to think I can pioneer a brewery for both cannabis and beer? Maybe that last one is a bit far fetched legally, but the others are just different ways of pursuing things I’m already good at. Regardless, the common denominator here is doing something that both challenges me and gives me something I enjoy out of it.
Who am I surrounded by? Like-minded individuals and my family. I need to have go-getters supporting and pushing me on a daily basis, and living with people motivated about life will inevitably rub off. A good example is someone like Alysia from massage school or internet celebrities like my guy Will Tennyson or a guy i only know as Knight. These people carry a go-getter attitude all day every day and are people I want to surround myself with. I want to be sure I’m keeping family close, or at least not gone for too long, so I can stay connected to my roots. Finally, my woman. I want a woman that compliments me in life and helps me realize my potential, and vice versa for her. I want a passion so deep we creep other people out, and a fierce and unyielding love that would make even Will Tennyson jealous.
What do I think and feel? I breathe in success and I breathe out weakness. Every thought I have is geared towards wellness, gratitude, and mindfulness, along with a deeply ingrained passion for success in all that I do. I am unyielding, obnoxiously self-confident and so strong that others gain strength just from my presence. I’m like Zyzz, bruh.
What do I say no to? Anything in excess. I won’t completely shut out anything, because most things are okay in moderation. The key is being able to balance pleasure and purpose. As long as purpose comes before pleasure, my mind will be in the right place.
What do I say yes to? Challenges. Going to events and being social, or simply just being a part of life. I’ve lived most of my life as a shut-in who does nothing other than watch screens and succumbs to every temptation of pleasure. To be the greatest version of myself I’ll have to go above and beyond my wildest expectations of myself, and to do so I’ll have to start accepting challenges and hardship into my life. Of course in life we have to set reasonable limits, so lets refresh this to say I’ll accept any challenge that is beneficial for my growth.
That’s it for now.